- Step 1 – I get it: What I’ve been doing is self-destructive. I need to change.
- Step 2 – I see the big pictures: The way to stop relapsing into self-destructive behaviors is to build a healthier sense of self.
- Step 3 – I have an action plan: From now on, I am squarely facing everything that is in the way of feeling really satisfied with my life.
- Step 4 – I honestly look at the effects of my actions on others and myself.
- Step 5 – I take responsibility for my actions.
- Step 6 – I see that my knee-jerk reactions have to do with being in the grip of more or less conscious fears.
- Step 7 – I strive to find my motivation in a deeper sense
- Step 8 – I stop blaming and feeling blamed, with a willingness to heal the wounds.
- Step 9 – I swallow my pride, and sincerely apologize to people I’ve hurt, except when this would be counterproductive.
- Step 10 – I live mindfully, paying attention to the motives and effects of my actions.
- Step 11 – I stay in touch with a broader sense of what I really want.
- Step 12 – A growing sense of wholeness and contentment motivates me to keep at it, and to share this process with others who are struggling.
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